I have a boyfriend and I love him very much. But I've always noticed that he likes to mess with me and he'll put me down. I don't know if it's an accident or he really means it. He'll joke around about me and my appearance and he sometimes says some offending things to me. I normally just brush it away and don't say anything because I don't want to spark an argument. And I've told him that he hurts my feelings when he says these things and he said he'll stop but then he continues. I need advice－金針銀耳的部落格 Movieholic

Nov 28 Mon 2016 10:26
I have a boyfriend and I love him very much. But I've always noticed that he likes to mess with me and he'll put me down. I don't know if it's an accident or he really means it. He'll joke around about me and my appearance and he sometimes says some offending things to me. I normally just brush it away and don't say anything because I don't want to spark an argument. And I've told him that he hurts my feelings when he says these things and he said he'll stop but then he continues. I need advice

I think sometimes it’s good not to tolerate anything and just tell him that it’s not going to work out for you two if he continues. Sometimes, what’s not clearly and boldly communicated is not communicated.

If and only if you have sufficient self confident and feel good about yourself, regardless what he says or what he does, he will stop it because of no fun. But, at that extent, you love yourself more and strong enough to live by your own.

Imagine that when you become old, this experience and this guy can give you good memory, then you can continue. But, if you feel that the life is tough during this period of time with this guy, that will give you bad memory, then you have to make up your mind at right time, so that certain good memory might still exist.